Is your child on Facebook? Are you? Many dads have expressed concern about social networking sites because they can be an open door for children to make bad decisions and perhaps even have dangerous online interactions with others. Those are legitimate concerns, and it’s important to be involved so you can watch for areas where your child might need help or protection.

But those sites can also be great tools to help you gain insight into your child’s interests and connect with him or her in deeper ways.
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THERE ARE NO PERFECT FATHERS!!

If you don't belive it just wait until you have a teenager.  I am the first to admit that I say things I later regret, maybe you have too.  As commited fathers we should be very aware that our words and actions are being heard and watched.  And that awareness should add extra motivation to speak and act responsibly - or, even better, in a way that encourages and breathes life into those around us.
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COST OF KIDS

I have seen repeatedly the breakdown of the cost of raising a child, but this is the first time I have seen the rewards listed this way.  It's nice, really nice!

The American government came up with these stats:  The cost of raising a child from birth to 18 years is in the region of $160,140 for a middle income famiy.
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Structure your parenting role

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The Tasks of Idealism

As a new father - fresh off the fathering boat - you face three key challenges.  You're probably eager to be an effective dad, but you're probably a little intimidated at the same time.  That's common in the stage of Idealism.  Here's what you need to focus on during these years.

First, learn about your emotions.
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FAMILIES NEED FATHERS

A book by Jason DeParle provides a powerful and revealing testimony to a missing essential in urban households -  fathers.  As he writes in American Dream; Three Women, Ten Kids, and a Nations Drive to End Welfare, "The lack of a father means the lack of income, affection and discipline that a father provides.
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CHILDREN OF DIVORCE NEED THEIR FATHER AND MOTHER

By Lauri Hassinger

As we approach this Fathers Day, I would like to share my thoughts as it relates to children of divorce.  I am Andy's mother and have been both a custodial and noncustodial stepmother to my stepsons Aaron and Ian.

What I share are my observations in these roles.
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The Calmness Factor

By Ken Canfield - National Centre for Fathering.

As I reflect on what I've noticed about fathers in the past year, I see that their busyness, high expectations and stress levels are off the scale.  So, I went back for a fresh look at some previous research, where "the calmness factor" emerged from a mountain of data as a critical part of effective fathering.
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I know it isn't easy for you to tell me when I've hurt you.  Maybe you feel you shouldn't have to.  But right now you do.  I need your help to get rid of the barriers between us.  You're stuck with me as a father and I'm not letting go, so the best thing you can do is help me become the best one I can.

Now, it was her time to cry.  She delivered her list.
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Ways to Make More Time.....

If you're a new father, get ready to make quite a few adjustments for the sake of your wife and kids.  Being a good dad usually means sacrificing some activities that are precious to you - activities that you'll really miss.

But as we "veteran" fathers can tell you, its worth it.  There are few pursuits as rewarding as investing in those who will carry on your legacy.
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This week, Public Agenda released a survey of 1607 parents, A Lot Easier Said Than Done: Parents Talk About Raising Children In Today’s America.
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